‘What I learned by moving our family from India to Italy’

Milan-based blogger Maheshwaran Jothi moved from India to Italy with his family in 2013 - and is still here almost eight years later. He spoke to The Local about why they stayed and what he’s learned along the way.

Maheshwaran Jothi's family moved from Bangalore to Milan in 2013.
Maheshwaran Jothi's family moved from Bangalore to Milan in 2013. Photo by Andreeew Hoang on Unsplash

Maheshwaran Jothi is a Milan-based semiconductor industry worker and the blogger behind Let’s Travelliamo, which provides practical advice about living in Italy. He also produces his own quarterly travel magazine, Travelliamo, which currently has four online and print editions.

Originally from Chennai, India, Maheshwaran has now lived in Milan with his wife Ramya and their two children for almost eight years.

I first came across Mahesh’s blog researching a guide to renewing Italian residency permits, and was drawn in by his detailed instructions and tongue-in-cheek tone. We got in touch to ask if he’d talk to us about his family’s experience of moving to Italy from India, and he agreed.


In this interview, we talked about what prompted the family’s decision to relocate to Italy, how his children handled the move, and their experiences of international school versus the Italian education system.

We also discussed how the couple set about finding a community in Milan, the advantages and drawbacks to living far from home, ambivalence about identity, and what inspired Mahesh to start his own Italian-themed practical advice blog and travel magazine.

On making the move

Mahesh had been making regular trips from Bangalore to Italy for many years as part of his work for an US-headquartered semiconductor company when his family decided to relocate in 2013.

At the time, his son was 12 and his daughter six. They were happy enough with the idea of moving abroad, but had one major reservation.

“The first question was ‘why Italy?’” says Mahesh. “Going to an English speaking country is very much liked by everybody. But going to non-English speaking countries, the first thought is, oh, why do you want to go there?”

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“We said OK, let’s try it for two years. And if they like it we stay, if not we go back.”

“After nine to ten months we started liking this place, and I saw a big change with my kids, especially the younger one. When she came here she was six or seven and we always had a bit of fear: how is she going to take it, because it’s a new culture, she doesn’t know the language, and she had to go directly into the second grade because of her age – the school said they couldn’t take her in the first grade.”

“But within six or seven months she started speaking like a local, and then we were really in our comfort zone.”

Mahesh's family on holiday in Italy.
Mahesh’s family on holiday in Italy. Photo: Maheshwaran Jothi.

On schooling

At six years old, Mahesh and Ramya’s daughter was young enough when they first moved to Italy that they decided to put her in an Italian medium school. It worked out: after a few months she was speaking the language fluently.

Their son, however, was at a more advanced stage in his schooling, and Mahesh and his wife felt it was important to avoid any gaps. They started him off in a British international school – but after nine months, he joined his sister in the Italian system.

“The first reason was cost,” says Mahesh. “But the second reason was I liked the school here – the way they interact with the kids made me realise that this is the right place.”

The British school operated more like the schools Mahesh and Ramya were familiar with back home: formal and slightly distant. Their local Italian school, by contrast, they found warm and friendly, and they liked how approachable the teachers were.


Key to both children’s success in transitioning to the Italian system, Mahesh says, were after-school sessions at an oratorio – a programme put on by a local church where volunteers helped their kids with their homework and offered extra tuition. It helped allay Mahesh and Ramya’s fears about educating their children in a totally foreign language.

“Myself and our wife, we couldn’t contribute anything other than sitting there and watching them when they did their homework. Initially we had that fear, because we didn’t know if what they were doing was right or wrong.”

“That’s why the oratorio was a big help,” says Mahesh. “We felt a little helpless because we couldn’t help our kids, but we hoped things would be fine, and they really were.”

On finding a community

When it came to making connections in the local community, Mahesh and his wife found their children’s school was a good starting point.

They worked on getting their Italian to proficiency level, and when Ramya dropped the kids off in the mornings she’d chat to the other parents in the playground.

“In Italian schools, parents’ participation is really really big,” says Mahesh. “With any functions or meetings, all the parents get together, we talk and then we go for aperitivo, et cetera.”

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Meeting for aperitivo drinks and snacks is a popular Italian pastime. Photo by Oscar Se balade on Unsplash

“Of course, in the last two years things have changed. But before that we were very frequently visiting other families and being with them, talking with them, so that’s how I tried to build up my Italian.”

As for making friends from back home, in the beginning they turned to the same place everyone does when they arrive in a new city: Facebook. Here they found groups of fellow Milan-based Tamil speakers that they could connect and unwind with in their own language.

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Since starting Let’s Travelliamo, though, Mahesh has increasingly found that the network comes to them: he’s regularly contacted by people moving to the city who’ve found his site and are looking to connect, and they’ve met several friends this way.

On language and identity

Any family that emigrates indefinitely finds that sooner or later, their adopted home starts in myriad ways to supplant the original. Mahesh and Ramya try to ensure Tamil is spoken at home, but Mahesh says that by the time they’d been in Italy for two or three years their daughter was speaking “almost 90 percent Italian”.

“When we were with her, we’d need to slowly understand and then ask her again. And we’d say if you want us to do something, tell us in our language.”

While Mahesh and his and his wife have made sure their children speak fluent Tamil, he does worry there’s a gap in their reading and writing skills. “We try to help them learn, but they don’t have much time and interest,” he says, a little ruefully.

Then there’s the question of nationality.


Currently, all four family members are Indian citizens, and they have another couple of years to go before any of them will be eligible to apply for Italian citizenship. But India doesn’t allow for dual citizenship; which means if any of them want to become Italians in the future, they’ll have to turn in their Indian passports.

“I don’t have any intention to change my citizenship,” he says. “But for my kids, my son is almost 20 so it’s his decision. My daughter, she has a few more years to decide.”

Mahesh and his family in Italy.
Mahesh and his family in Italy. Photo: Maheshwaran Jothi.

On the challenges of living in Italy…

The main challenge Mahesh and his wife have experienced relocating to Italy is the same one faced by all those who move far from home: missing family.

“I have my mother living alone, and she misses the grandchildren,” Mahesh says. “When I left she said OK, two years, you guys are going to come back and we are all going to be together. But two became three, four, and now it’s almost eight years, and I think she feels, OK…it’s slowly sinking in.”

While they talk regularly with relatives via Whatsapp, it’s not the same as being around a large extended family.


“I grew up in a large family, in the sense that I have four sisters. There was always fighting, it was always lively, too many people in the home, then we had aunts, uncles, everybody. But today I need to introduce my aunt or uncle to my kids, because they live far away and just once in a while they say hi and then go back.”

Not being around extended family also means missing big family functions.

“It’s not only festivals – in India at least once a month we have some get together in the sense of, it’s somebody’s birthday, or we will get together in a temple when there’s some religious activity happening, so at least once a month we see everybody and we mingle.”

“After coming here, once or twice a year we participate in celebrations, but it’s completely different, right? Of course with friends we go out, but the family part, we miss that.”

…And the positives

On the flip side, Mahesh’s family nuclear family has found there are lots of advantages to living in Italy, not least the long summer holidays.

“The vacation days in Italy are simply fantastic,” Mahesh enthuses. “In August, almost all of Italy is in vacation mode. In India we can’t normally take long vacations – maximum one or two weeks when exams are over.”

The long holidays means that Mahesh and Ramya and their children can return to India for a full month every summer to visit family and friends (though the pandemic has put a stop to those visits for the last couple of years).

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Then for someone like Mahesh, who declares travel to be his “love, passion and dream”, being within easy reach of a range of different countries with no bureaucratic red tape in the way has been a huge benefit.

Together the family have explored most of Italy’s regions, and last spring they took off on a week-long road trip around northern Europe, stopping in Austria, Switzerland, Germany, Poland, Czech Republic, Latvia and Slovenia.

The excitement in crossing the border without the need to get through the complex process of visa is a boon for we Indian (Asian) citizens,” he wrote to me in advance of our call.

Mahesh and his family on holiday in Poland.
Mahesh and his family on holiday in Poland. Photo: Maheshwaran Jothi.

And though they might miss family gatherings, Milan’s large international student community means that major Indian festivals like Diwali are fully celebrated – and these days, they’re drawing increasingly large numbers of Italians.

“During Holi [the Hindu festival of colours which takes place in the spring], I see loads of Italians participating, because the students are the most active participants. They have Italian friends, so they bring in all those Italian students, and they all get together – it’s really a good gathering actually, very lively.”

On blogging

It wasn’t until 2017 that Mahesh first started blogging about life in Italy.

As he racked up years of Milanese living experience, Mahesh found himself answering more and more questions from Indians considering taking job offers or accepting transfers to the country.

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He created his own website,, where he posted responses to commonly asked questions to which he could direct enquirers; and in 2020, he migrated the content to Let’s Travelliamo, where he also started publishing detailed explainers on living in Italy, from filing taxes to taking your driving test.

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“I thought maybe if I had some website with this information, that could help others: so I came in and started doing it,” he says.

The question he was asked most frequently is how much money you can save working in Italy, so he’s put together a comprehensive guide to living costs.

“You can not say how much someone can save, because it depends on your living style,” he says.

“You can spend an entire 1,000 euros in ten days, or maybe have it last for the whole month, right? So that’s when I said OK, instead of trying to answer everybody with how much you can save, if I put the cost of things available in Italy, then it’s up to them to decide whether the salary they’ll get it sufficient or not.”

In 2021 Mahesh also started putting out Travelliamo, an online and print magazine which he writes, edits, designs and produces entirely by himself. Each issue features a different Italian region: so far he’s covered Lombardy, Veneto, Sicily and Tuscany.

He was inspired to start the magazine, he says, after he visited Puglia and was “astonished” by its beauty, having never really heard much about the region.

Characteristic trulli houses in Puglia.

Characteristic trulli houses in Puglia. Photo by Kirsten Velghe on Unsplash

“As an outsider, I was mostly informed about the regular travel places like Milan, Venice, Florence, Pisa, Rome, Amalfi etc.,” he says.

“I was wondering why these gems are being hidden for the regular tourists and thought to bring out those hidden treasures through my quarterly travel magazine.”

In the future, Mahesh plans to travel to Palermo (he’s been to Catania but not to the West of Sicily), as well as Calabria, Sardinia, and Marche – some of the few Italian regions he’s still yet to visit. His favourite region remains Puglia, though he’s only visited in winter, so he and his wife hope to return in warmer weather at some point.

Mahesh’s dream would be to travel every day – but for now he’ll have to fit it into his long Italian holidays. His favourite part of travelling, he says, is more the journey than when you land: “the fast moving tall trees through the windows of the train, short chats you have with co-passengers, or the natural beauty you enjoy during those drives around the valleys.”

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‘Why I ditched my UK corporate career for an abandoned Italian vineyard’

Many people dream of enjoying a slower pace of life in rural Italy after decades of the 9-5. But some make the leap much earlier. One former UK professional tells Silvia Marchetti how she swapped the London office grind for winemaking and never looked back.

‘Why I ditched my UK corporate career for an abandoned Italian vineyard’

At some point in life living the dream means abandoning one’s job, and this usually happens when people retire and think about what to do next. 

But one UK professional made the opposite choice: in her early 20s, she decided to ditch a promising career in the corporate and consultancy sector to move to deepest rural Italy and recover her ancestors’ long-lost vineyard. 

Scottish-Italian Sofia di Ciacca, with two degrees in law and history of art, worked for four years at KPMG in London and Edinburgh before she took the opportunity to do something different in life.

Her ancestors, who hailed from the tiny village of Picinisco in the province of Frosinone, Lazio, had migrated to Scotland decades ago. Every time she visited Italy as a child during the holidays, Sofia would feel the pull of her roots.

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“I found myself presented with an opportunity very young, thanks to my family’s historical connection to the area, and thought: I either take time to build a career, or I can grab this chance,” she says.

“When you’re building a career, you already know what your trajectory will be: that you’ll be in an office here, and another office there. I realised I didn’t want that.”

At 23 she asked herself: why do later in life what I can do now? 

Sofia at work. Photo credit: Sofia Di Ciacca

This awareness took a while to develop, she says.

“As a child when I returned to Italy it was only as a holiday, not my day-to-day life. Imagine a young girl from Scotland, who had to learn about wine. I never thought about it when I was young.”

“Picinisco is so real, out of my comfort zone. That fascinated me”. 

Sofia, now 33, says she decided “to create something of value, that lasts in time and memory”.

Her family had started renovating old buildings in the area, and supported her career leap, but the wine business was something she was going to personally handle and dedicate years of sacrifice, study and hard work to building.

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Sofia had to learn from scratch, in a job that wasn’t quite like sitting in an office in front of a computer, and that required specific physical and social skills. 

She spent around four years studying the secrets of winemaking with Italian wine consultants in other parts of Italy, mainly on vineyards in Tuscany, where she learnt how to clean tanks, press grapes, plant vines, organise and run a canteen, and do the vendemmia (grape harvest). 

“I did traineeships, met experts, other international wine students, and all this helped me to grow,” she explains.

“The wine world is very complicated, you need to learn basic principles and engineering before you can even fathom how to start anything. Only once you learn, study, then you can have your own say, go see how local farmers work, understand how deep they plough the soil”.

Almost 10 years later, her winery now produces premium wines, honey and extra virgin olive oil. The wine is from an ancient grape variety grown in the area, called Maturano, of which production had been forsaken when local families migrated. 

She says it’s all a matter of gaining self-confidence built on hard graft, and it’s best to be honest and humble about things you don’t know, and are willing to be taught. Understanding the “rural respect for farmers” was key for her.

Sofia in the vineyard. Photo credit: Sofia Di Ciacca

One challenge was figuring out how to split her life between two countries: Scotland and Italy, and deciding where to locate the sales site, whether it was best to be in the cantina in Picinisco or marketing her products in Edinburgh. She says the balance is still not perfect.

But the toughest obstacle was tackling Italian bureaucracy. 

“I shed a lot of tears. The regulations hindered the business, like getting grants. You really need to follow the rules, understand the system, get the right people to advise you,” she says.

“But above all, stay honest. People will try to befriend you pretending to help, but it’s not worth it. As foreigners at the beginning you just don’t know how things work in Italy, you need to ask a lot of questions, and don’t be afraid to do that”. 


Another feat was the practical side of wine-making itself, which requires a lot of physical work, from hand-picking the grapes in the organic vineyard to getting the winery in shape. 

“You need to get physically fit, and the machinery at first was really not for me,” Sofia says. 

“I wasn’t great at understanding how it worked but luckily I had the right people to teach me”. 

The first harvest came after years of tough vineyard revival. The six-hectare vineyard produces some 30,000 bottles a year, which have already won three international prizes. Alongside the premium white 100 percent Maturano wine, it also yields a sweet amber-coloured passito wine. 

Sofia with her children. Photo credit: Sofia Di Ciacca

“I’ve always been fascinated by grapes, passionate about how they turn into wine,” Sofia says. 

“Recovering the indigenous Maturano variety was a success, it grew well with the fertile soil and the climate. The grapes are left to do the talking, no yeasts are used.”

In the meantime, it’s become a family affair: Sofia got married – her husband, also Scottish-Italian, is a wine importer – and their two toddlers have now started taking part in the vendemmia.